Hmmm Ya... so what to do?

I am amazed at how family can be so enigmatic. They want the best for you. They wish pray and hope only good things happen to you. But then when the onion is peeled layer by layer, there are so many patterns you never understand or at least too difficult to fathom.

Parents have a vision and want the kids to grow into a personality they wish to see. Very rarely does this happen as family is not the only influence while growing up. The fact is, in today's world the external world has more impact on the growing individual than family.

Now coming to what is enigmatic. For all the years the family sees you growing up, you would expect them to know who you actually are, what is your thought process, how things affect you, blah blah blah. But the irony is they still have the vision in mind and try to fit you into that. In most cases its a square peg in a round hole. And the criticism which arises out of trying to match this vision and what is the actual individual is sometimes insulting. It is disapproving what the individual is all about.

How do you handle such a situation?